Introduction to the philosophy of Mind Over Weight – It’s All In Your Head
Success Formula
For 2/3 of my life I have opened my mind to learn, know and now practice
that our thoughts truly do affect our life. (Internal, external, conscious
or unconscious – verbalized or not, these thoughts are shaping our lives –
latterly!)
The first 1/3rd of my life I enjoyed a happy childhood, very fortunate and
now know how very blessed I am for that childhood. Even though it was a
nurturing and loving household the thoughts of my parents and
grandparents, etc., became beliefs of mine. Some of those beliefs about
food were:
“Eat everything on your plate, because there are children in Africa
starving “ (and I can see that big tummy beautiful, but very
malnutritioned child in my mind’s television – C.A.R.E. International type
commercials) Every time I ate this was unconsciously or sometimes
consciously, playing through my head, therefore, even if I was full or did
not want any more – I’d eat it! And a part of me said “good girl”.. hmmm
…reward thoughts? So I eat the food, which I don’t want, and then I send
myself a reward thought? That’s a mixed message and an example of only one
belief (which was a thought of my families (and society!) that needs to be
reframed or released to be a success in weight loss.
Other examples
Waste not, want not? (I believed, If I throw food out, then I can’t ‘want’
for anything!)
Eat what’s in front of you, money doesn’t grow on trees! (You would be
wasting if you throw it out – see above)
Eat it, even if you don’t like it, that’s all there is! (More of the same
– and as well, you don’t count because it doesn’t matter if you like it or
not!) ..Which was really silly that I would internalize it…but it happens!
I’m sure you can think of a few of your own. These beliefs are innocent,
BUT still have an effect on us today. If your childhood wasn’t as
nurturing as mine, I know your examples may be more harsh, and painful.
Sometimes these thoughts are from name calling or worse. They seem fresh
in your mind and hurt again and again.
I also was very hard on myself in my thoughts (and out loud) as I had a
bigger frame that most of my friends and developed young, therefore
carried more overall weight. Looking back now, there was nothing wrong
with me, everyone eventually caught up, but until then, I managed to beat
myself up and cling on to others thoughts that were critical. Inside I was
very insecure. Was able to hide a lot of it, but I know what I was saying
to myself that others didn’t hear.
In my early 20’s I got very ill and this was the real turning point of my
unconscious thinking. I started to notice what I was saying and because I
had just started listening to ‘motivational’ tapes and attending ‘Self
Help’ seminars – like Bob Proctor “Think and grow rich” etc.. I started to
stop and evaluate thoughts/beliefs and decide if I wanted to continue to
play them. To be honest it was a work in progress for more than 10 +years
(and I think always ongoing, but much quicker and easier now..That’s what
I will teach you).
In my late 20’s early 30’s, I was slim and happy with my body. This
continued for many years, having 2 children in my mid-late 30’s. I bounced
back losing the baby fat quickly the first time and slower the second
(using a popular point calculation program both times).
Three years ago I went on a ‘No wheat and No sugar diet for brain clarity
and it was great! I lost some more weight (didn’t need to, but since I
loved carbohydrates especially sweets!, I did). My old motto was
“Carbohydrates speed up my metabolism and burn off my fat”. This was a
belief that seemed to work for me. When the brain clarity experiment was
over, I returned to eating wheat and sugar but now my belief had changed
to: “Wheat and sugar are not good for my brain “ and I had proved it
remember? It was something I had ‘learned’. I took someone else’s thoughts
turned into beliefs and because of trust of this person and because I felt
clearer, I took on that belief! Guess what happened, I ballooned to more
than when I was pregnant! I was out of control and said STOP!!!!! What is
going on??!!
When I started really looking at what belief’s I had before, and what was
different I figured that big whopper of a belief change! I’ve also learned
about where we stuff our negative thoughts and feelings( that came from us
or others) and what to do to reverse that process to be successful.
In that 2/3rd of my learning/practicing portion of my life (which is still
occurring and will never stop) I took many courses to not only detect what
thoughts and beliefs I had to change, but but to delete, erase and remove
old belief’s and replace them with new thoughts/beliefs. Since in my
practice today I assist clients all over North America, to change their
thoughts to achieve their goals, I adopted that same philosophy to create
this new way of thinking which created my new body that I wanted and
deserved and now enjoy!
The success formula is a step by step process to re-program or reframe all
the thoughts about food, failure, and lack, including lack of respect/love
of self that has got you to where you are right now. Re-framing those
thoughts/beliefs to finally take back your power and move you permanently
in the direction you want to go!
Once my success started, I knew I had ‘cracked the code’ only I had known
the code for many years, just didn’t apply it to weight! Now many have
adopted this way of thinking and are changing their thoughts and bodies
too! (see testimonials)
